Cure Premature Ejaculation Now!If you'd like to go straight to the page describing a cure for premature ejaculation, click here. How not to ejaculate too quickly - practice getting to the edge of orgasm and not coming.It stands to reason - the more aware you are of your impending orgasm, the easier it is to slow down before you shoot, and the longer you can go on without coming. This was what I did. I'm not saying it was easy - often the reward of the orgasm was so great that I just gave in and allowed myself to come - but it was worth it in the long run. My advice to you is not to be weak. Instead be a man, and make it work. Stop your premature ejaculation now. Here's how you can do it. This method is set out in steps. You can practice the steps up to the vaginal insertion (that's Step 5) on your own or with a partner. If you do it with a partner, just have her masturbate you instead of doing it yourself. The exercises are described as though you're beginning on your own. How to cure premature ejaculation - step 1 When you have a good erection, lie on your back, close your eyes, and masturbate yourself. You must concentrate on your physical sensations, so that when you feel the urge to ejaculate starting to develop you can stop what you're doing until the ejaculatory urge subsides. In other words, you are looking out for the feeling which tells you you're going to come - and then you stop masturbating before you ejaculate. This may seem difficult at first, but it rapidly gets easier, so don't give up. Some men find it easier to stop themselves ejaculating by squeezing their penis firmly just under the glans at the top of the shaft. Don't squeeze so hard that it's painful, though! Here's a picture of the squeeze technique (where the partner is doing it, rather than the guy doing it himself, as you can see, but the idea in the same!) (Click to enlarge it.) You or you partner should squeeze the shaft of your penis just below the base of your glans between your thumb and forefinger.
When the urge to ejaculate has passed, she - or you - can begin masturbating again:
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Masturbate until you again feel the urge to premature ejaculation begin to develop, then stop once more for a full minute. This process is repeated three times, and then on the fourth you can carry on till you ejaculate. As you do, notice how you feel in your groin and penis and the sensations that accompany the whole process. Each phase of this cycle will take you to a greater level of arousal, so you're already learning to recognize and respond to a greater and greater level of arousal, one which in the past would perhaps have simply and inevitably have led to you ejaculating. Do this 3 times a week for 2 weeks. How to cure premature ejaculation step 2You might already be sensing that you have some control over the timing of when you have your orgasm. By slowing down your masturbation, or stopping your ejaculation altogether, you may have discovered a new level of control over what previously seemed to be an unstoppable process. The next step is to learn how to keep your arousal at a high level without coming. For example, if 10 meant that you were going to come, then you would aim to keep yourself at 7.5 or 8. As you masturbate, you can focus on your arousal level, and when you get to 6 or 7 you can ease off or slow down, trying to keep the level of arousal high or constant. If you suddenly lose it and ejaculate, well, just put it down to experience and try again next time! Again you may use the squeeze technique to help your urge to ejaculate to subside. It's all a matter of what you find easiest to use. After trying this out for several times, you should find that you can keep yourself highly aroused but not on the verge of ejaculating, and it will be easier for you to keep this level of arousal without coming. What's more, after you can do this for 15 minutes, and then let yourself go and ejaculate, you will find that the intensity of your orgasms is much greater and more intense! You need to make this more gradual approach to ejaculation a habit pattern, which is best done by practicing three times a week. When you practice over and over, it will become the normal response in your body - just as your quick ejaculation is your normal response right now. How to cure premature ejaculation step 3And the interesting thing is that you can extend your degree of control over your ejaculation by learning to clench and relax the muscles at the base of your penis (the PC muscle). The effects are different in different men. I can actually bring myself off more quickly depending on how tightly I clench these muscles, but for some men, the same process slows down orgasm. Many men find that if they partially clench them they can exercise control over how quickly they come. All in all, the power of the PC muscle contraction is that it allows you another way of holding off coming or speeding it up. However, the benefits of learning how to contract and relax these muscles go beyond being able to slow down or speed up your orgasm. You will also find the fitter the muscle, the further you shoot your semen when you ejaculate and the greater the intensity of your orgasm. What you do is this: contract your PC muscle during the exercises you learned in Step 2 and see what effect it has on your progression through arousal to orgasm. If you don't know which is your PC muscle, it's basically the one you use to stop yourself urinating in midstream. When I was learning to do this, I found it easiest to practice clenching and relaxing the muscle when I was semi-erect. The swelling of the penis when you contract or clench the muscle is a sure sign that you're exercising the correct one! How to cure premature ejaculation step 4Next, you can enhance steps 2 and 3 (if you have not already used it in the process) by using a lubricant: some of the more slippery modern water based lubes mirror the vaginal environment, and will provide even more arousal than normal. After several (3 or 4) trials of this kind, you and your partner can practice ejaculatory control while you're inside her vagina. How to cure premature ejaculation step 5You're going to have sex with your partner on top while you lie on your back. You can put your penis at the entry to her vagina or just inside it, and see what that feels like. If you feel like coming, ease off or away until the sensation passes. Remember the idea is to maintain your level of arousal for as long as you chose without coming. Once again, squeezing your penis (see step 1) may be helpful in controlling the process. When you are able, with your partner on top, put your penis inside her vagina and then guide her up and down with your hands on her hips until you are at arousal level 7.5 or 8 - and keep it that way by adjusting your partner's movements. Stop moving and rest if you get too close to coming. Your desire to ejaculate will decrease at this point, and when it has done so, guide her into resuming her movements, once again pausing when you near the point of ejaculatory inevitability. It is important that during the first three repetitions of this sequence you do not thrust. However, on the fourth repetition, let yourself go, focus on how it feels and thrust until you ejaculate. The crucial thing is that you try and focus on what you're feeling all the time, so that you know when you're about to ejaculate and can stop the process before it happens. After three or four sessions of lovemaking using this process, you could repeat the exercise in the side by side position for three or four sessions of lovemaking - and then lastly do it with the man on top, missionary position. The whole sequence can be repeated as many times as you like until you're confident you can control your ejaculation - the point of the exercise being that you can get to a point where you can let go and come when you want. This may take from 2 to 10 weeks and sometimes a few months to get complete control. And above all remember to ask your partner what she wants each time you have had an orgasm. She may be happy just to see you happy, or she may want clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Talking with each other about what you want to do and how it feels means neither of your will be working in the dark. You need to communicate what feels good and what not to do - and what you want, as well. This will help you both feel confident and sexually relaxed, and able to discuss ways to mutual pleasure that don't depend on intercourse alone. Remember that practicing often is the single most effective thing you can do to develop more effective control over when you have an orgasm. It's important to remember that there will be times when you simply cannot control your orgasm. This is not an indication that the PE cure is not working! But don't dwell on your failures - laugh and joke with your partner about the process - sex is meant to be fun, not a trial! It works. Here are some other things that help to cure premature ejaculation. Get into the whole sexual experience. An erect penis might mean your body is ready, but it doesn't necessarily mean you are emotionally ready for sex. You may actually need to get yourself more aroused so that you have more enthusiasm for the sex act. Low arousal will tend to lead to a "get it over quick" attitude, a lack of effort and motivation to control the speed of your ejaculation, and a disappointing orgasm. One good way to get really aroused is to enjoy massage, kissing, cuddling, and gentle intimacy. Anything that gets your partner aroused will probably get you aroused, because nothing seems to excite a man like the sight of a horny woman (especially if he's responsible for getting her horny!) So spend lots of time on foreplay with your partner. And oral sex on a woman is often a good way for a man to get his own arousal up to the point where he can feel really enthusiastic about sex. Though you may be more aroused, you may also be more motivated to control your ejaculation. Sounds like a paradox, but makes perfect sense. Learn some good
techniques.
There are plenty of places where you can learn to improve your sexual technique.
Learn a little about her G spot, for example, and how to stimulate it. The results
are often amazing! Learn how to give good oral sex, and how to massage her
vagina and vulva. Kissing is an art form in itself and most women regard it as
really romantic. And, interestingly, the best techniques that I
found for stimulating my girlfriend's G spot also helped me to control my
premature ejaculation more easily. You can read about them more
fully in these books: Extended
Sexual Orgasm by Alan and Donna Brauer and A
Beginner's Guide to Tantric Sexuality by Richard Craze.
If you want to develop these techniques, then
it's well worth getting those books so you can enjoy much more creative lovemaking
in a juicy, uninhibited and satisfying way.
The next page describes how my girlfriend and I achieved simultaneous orgasms during sex - once we'd dealt with my premature ejaculation!
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