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If you come too quickly, read on.....these are comments from the sex advice forumsPremature ejaculation is a problem you just don't want to experience. As one young man wrote to us:Q: I'm just about 21 years of age, and I come within two minutes of entering my partner. The problem is that every girl I ever have sex with thinks I'm useless. What can I do about this? A: The problem might be that everything you're thinking about when you get ready for sex makes the problem worse. First of all you're young, so you naturally have a high sex drive: and that in itself makes you very ready to ejaculate. Second, you know you are going to come quickly, so naturally your attention is focused on that expectation. Third, your partner may be young and inexperienced as well, and looking to you for a lead during sex, so that will put even more pressure on you. We do have several suggestions, though. First of all, masturbate some time before you have sex so that you have perhaps a chance of lasting longer when you have sexual intercourse. Then, during sex, deal with your premature ejaculation with some mental and physical techniques. As soon as you feel you are about to come during sex itself, stop thrusting, lie still, think of something else. In other words, take yourself mentally out of the situation. After two or three minutes your arousal should have dropped, so you can then go back to thrusting - but take it slowly. Slow and steady will help you last longer. If you feel yourself getting too aroused, then slow down the pace of intercourse or withdraw altogether from your partner. If this doesn't help you last longer, close your eyes and think of something else. Take yourself out of the moment, count to thirty and then back down again. Or alternatively, try using pressure to stop yourself from coming too quickly: squeeze your penis just below the head between your finger and thumb or ask your partner to do it. It may also help if your partner doesn't get you too aroused during the early stages of sex. Avoid, for example, oral sex, or masturbation. Make those separate activities which you enjoy when you aren't going to have full penetrative sex. This way you may find it easier to control your ejaculation.There is more your partner can do to help you control your ejaculation. First of all, she can take pressure off you by agreeing that if you come before she is satisfied, you can masturbate or give her oral sex until she has had an orgasm. During sex, if you need to stop thrusting to allow your arousal to drop, remind her to stay turned on by using fantasy or by touching herself in a way that keeps her aroused. Ask her if she is willing to help you learn greater self-control by assisting you with the stop-start technique or the squeeze technique. Better still, sign up for the premature ejaculation treatment control program described on this website and ask her to help you with the methods that it describes! Click here: treatment for premature ejaculation treatment. Lasting longer in bed is not a matter of chance - it is a matter of experience, skill and confidence. Premature ejaculation can be confidence sapping, but it doesn't need to be - and if you have a confident, happy relationship, it is easy for a couple to work through the issues and find a long term solution. Think of something else (even though it's not
very fun to). That's how I managed to prevent premature ejaculation. Even now sometimes when things
get REALLY hot I have to think of baseball. Other things to be aware of: If you've recently stopped using a condom this can lead to you ejaculating more quickly. You may find that even if you have been able to last long enough during sex for years, when you stop using a condom you suddenly find you come far too quickly. The answer for this situation is exactly the same as for any other in which a man ejaculates too quickly: patience, slow sex, training your body to recognize when you are aroused, and stopping your thrusting during sex to let your arousal drop. The sexual position you use during intercourse can have a lot to do with how long you last - any position which produces a tightness in the woman's vagina will most likely reduce the length of time for which you enjoy sex. Find a position which doesn't put much pressure on your penis - side by side sex is useful here. Another suggestion, if you like rear entry sex, but come very quickly during it, is this: instead of the woman kneeling on all fours and the man entering from behind, try having the woman lie on her side (slightly turned face down) and have the man lying behind her. He can then lift up the woman's upper leg and enter her (perhaps with her help, guiding his penis in). At this point, the man can move his chest away from his partner and enjoy the sight and feel of his partner's buttocks. This produces a great feeling and gives you the enjoyment of rear entry without all the pressure and stimulation which leads to quick ejaculation! Q: I have a problem with premature ejaculation. I have tried many things but none has really worked! Do you have any suggestions? A: You could try a rubber ring around the base of your penis and testicles. The Contrex (large) or Erexcel (standard size) restriction band is designed to fit around the base of the penis behind the testicles. It is supposed to help control your ejaculation. Alternatively, the "Endure Climax Control Sleeve" is again supposed to help you control your ejaculation - used with the Endure Climax Control Lubricating Gel, which is an anesthetic, your penis will be desensitized and you might last longer. (We do not recommend these systems, but you can find out the details here.) A third option: go ahead and come quickly the first time, then take more time for the second. This is only going to work if you happen to like having sex when your girl's vagina is full of your semen. You might, you might not.Fourth, a lot of men find premature ejaculation is a confidence thing. Some guys are so concerned about pleasing their partner that they become obsessed by how to prevent premature ejaculation. Happily if the woman is wise enough to help the man relax and not worry this need not be a problem. Premature ejaculation does get better as you get older. But you also need to be able to recognize when you first feel it building up. A lot of times you can just stop thrusting and relax, which means you effectively train your body/penis/testicles to naturally "relax" over some time. A: One man has told us that he found with 50 mg a day of Zoloft his orgasm was delayed but more intense. But another man reports that he had to take Wellbutrin to get his sex drive back when he was on Zoloft and said: "Be careful you don't go from premature ejaculation to no ejaculation!" Another man reported that while his ejaculation was delayed, his orgasm had no intensity or pleasure in it.
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